(My friend, D, recommended this TedTalk!)
I watched it over breakfast this morning and really enjoyed it! As I approach my 20s (I’m turning 20 in October!), it’s easy to get sucked into the hive mind mentality of ‘putting things off until you’re 30’. It’s easy to disregard a whole decade of your life, thinking that you have time, when in-fact, you don’t! Regardless of where you are in life and how old you are, I think it’s important to always strive for growth. Of course, a downside that can also result is that you’ll end up never being satisfied. That can be deterred by reflecting upon your growth, documenting your gratitudes, and just being grateful in general!
Jay mentions 3 things that every 20something should hear.
- Gain identity capital – do something that adds value to who you are, and invest in who you might want to be. Mindless exploration that does not count is procrastination. Identify capital begets identity capital.
- The urban tribe is overrated – spending time with like-minded peers limits who you know, what you know, how you think, how you speak, and where you work. Maximize on weak ties – friends of friends of friends. New friends, bosses, relationships, often arise from weak ties.
- The time to start picking your family is now – be intentional with love. Consciously choose who you want, and what you want. Who you pick now, is who will be in your family later. Don’t settle down at 30 with whoever you’re currently living with or sleeping with.
Anyways, I just thought it was really nice to ponder on the things she said! Of course, because I’m 19, I took in all the advice she gave. For those that are 30 and over may have a different view! I’d love to know your thoughts. 🙂